Apparently, there is a large group of men who have posted personal ads while SHARING THE SAME BRAIN! After all, how else would you explain how all the men out there seem to have never done something like this before (looked on-line for love, that is), love cuddling, enjoy romantic walks on the beach, and bill themselves as sick of the bar scene. Is this what they think women are looking for? Is this what women are looking for? It’s not what I am looking for.
First of all, I have looked for (and found) love on-line before. Hearing that a man has never done this doesn’t make me think, “Well, that makes him much cooler than guys who make this a habit!” Would you rather meet your partner on-line or in a bar or on the train when it has to stop because another passenger is having a heart attack (this happened to a girl I know…they bonded over their concern that they were going to be late arriving at their respective destinations)? Who cares, as long as you meet that person? Hearing that a man loves to cuddle and enjoys romantic walks on the beach doesn’t make my heart go pitter pat. Sure, I like to cuddle as much as the next girl, but it’s not a necessary piece of information to know right off, and sometimes it’s nice to stick to my side of the bed. And are there men out there who really enjoy long, romantic walks on the beach? And if so, isn’t it a shame that there is no ocean-front property in Pennsylvania?
I am concerned that, in their haste to make themselves look “cool” and seem unlike a smarmy booty call seeker, men are not sharing who they really are and what they are really looking for. I want to hear a guy say something like, “I like to watch football as much as possible, and I also enjoy rebuilding old PCs in my spare time.” Give me some honesty, people. Sure, women complain about men and sports, and some women don’t go for the techno-geek type, but a man who says that is telling it like it is…no unpleasant surprises left for later when your Sundays are spent either on your own or in front of the TV and your spare room starts to resemble a Microsoft factory. My “profiles” (the code name for what is really a personal ad) are pretty brutally honest. I pull no punches…I am not just looking for a good time, I am not “slim,” “slender,” or “athletic and toned,” I am not looking for someone who merely describes himself as a sensuous lover (I kid you not…how’s that for modesty?). I do want to get married and have kids one day, and I do feel like I need to get down to that because biological clock is ticking.
The best I can say about Match.com right now is that it is providing me endless fodder for entertainment. Eharmony is certainly better because there seem to be some higher-quality men on there. But sometimes, when I am reading once again about someone who thought they would try on-line dating on a lark because they were sick of the bar scene, I look back a little sadly on what I had before and wish that things had been different and that we were still together now.